Being being a man in this day an age is almost like taking a roller coaster ride through life, Whoa! . Cool! Right where was I.. .
Yes, being a young black man and living in britain or in my case London daily it can be suggested a roller coaster ride.
Firstly I need to say, the something that gets me is the staring, it’s the obvious low!
White girls, white guys, Chinese people etc, they stare, it’s funny but Indian women and men do not stare as much, maybe they feel safe or are just use to the exact same treatment! Who knows? I mean I could walk on any street, night and day and its always the same, take just another day, it was 5pm on a Thursday, it was a lovely day, there I was walking up a very prominent road near Holland park, near where I actually live, I always walk on the right hand side of any street or road, I do not know why its just my way! So as I was walking, playing tunes from my ipod and taking in the sights of this gorgeous beautiful Houses on this street. Ahead of me I could see a very attractive woman and yes she was white, as I got nearer to this lady I noticed she was looking right at me, I thought to myself great she is stunning and she is looking at me, cool! However, as we got closer she paused and crossed over to the other side of the road and as she did, she kept looking back at me. . .Hmm! I thought to myself, not great! Now again, do not fly of the handle but to me it seemed as though she was scared of me or found me threatening. Which is understandable in this day an age with how society is but what got me was that this road was fairly long and if she wanted to cross over why didn’t she do it much sooner? But it got worse for me that specific day because within a minute or 2. . .it occur again and this time the woman was much older. I was starting to think I must seem like a perfect villain in spite of the fact that I’d been dress quite decent plus I was carrying my guitar (instance ) in my shoulders.
We won’t speak about the police and the stop and search factor but I will say that, that is only gone completely over the top, too much stories to tell so I’ll stop there because that is just the one of those lows, now let me give you a high, I think you deserve to hear the advantages in addition to the downsides but after hearing it, would you say it was a positive thing or a negative thing?
Well! . .one of the greatest things about being a Black Man is how Women perceive us, Black men attract women in a different manner than the normal man, or should I say a white man. White guys will always get girls because it’s their world and that’s fine by me but being Black we have something that they will never have and know. We have the difference! Women who enjoy this gap may inform you, they enjoy it because they just prefer black guys, I think that there’s a deeper meaning to the madness. I think it comes down to one thing and that’s fear. Well take it from me; we know that if we are in need of something and we know we can not have it, we tend to go out of our way to get it and that’s how all of this started, it’s just progressed quietly within different generations, cultures and life generally.
I’ve travelled around the world and every time I leave the UK I am always racially abused in some way, from airport security around the world to European cities where there are zero Black men and so as soon as you get of the plane you become like a alien and everyone stares at you and sees the gap that I have been talking about. But going back to the women for a second or two, they do frequently see something else than their male counterparts. Most times it’s great for me, sometimes it’s not but being a man you can not always get the girl! Various women from all around the world prefer a certain kind of person, be it about their religious beliefs, or sexually traits or their fear of the distinction, What I have observed and have made a note of is that Asian women i.e. Chinese or Indian will not be seen dead with a Black man, Eastern women are a little different, the new generation of young girls do find Black men more attractive but that depends on the nationality of the Black male. American women are certainly mixing it in the moment a good deal more than ever but that’s down to the way Black men are portrayed in the united states. English Girls are showing signs but for me mostly in cosmopolitan London. Irish and Scottish White women will not go down that road. The welsh women are much more receptive to the idea but generally there’s still segregation amongst the mixing of Black Men and White Women across the world, again for me it is very much understandable.
In my case I get a great deal of attention from White women in fact much more than I would get from Black women, so what does that tell you! So as I said, is it a good thing or bad thing? If you do not believe me just check out any dating site, that’s where all of the evidence is. Just look at what the girls want and you’ll see. . .90percent of these women want white males and only 10% don’t care what the guy looks like. Again that is just how the world is, preference is quite important to most people.
So the ride continues. . .we have had our ups and downs, what more can I add, well the worse part of the ride for me is straightforward and it’s the way society sees Black men as a whole! This is a touchy subject that haunts me into the heart of my spirit but what people really don’t know is that being Black we see things very easy, we don’t go around thinking we are better than anybody that is the first thingwe don’t see racism throughout our eyes when we look at a different culture, we don’t wonder why you’re that color and why we are this color but with how we have been duped by the world with easy things like Great is shown by the color White and Bad is revealed as Black, its easy things like this that continues beliefs in white culture which colour Black should be feared.
Also the absence of White people around the World, not knowing just where they come from and their own history, Being a Black Man or Black Woman we obviously want to comprehend our origins and we pursue this everyday and the majority of the new generation of Blacks around the globe know much more about where they come from, much more than a White Person. The History of Black people is seldom told so we are left to our own devices to get the answers and questions so that we are the proud people and race that we are now. Remember that this is only my view point of this situation about being a Black. Yours may be different but that’s what makes us the people we are. So now and the next day and the months and years ahead I shall continue my Roller Coaster Ride as a Black man and hopefully I’ll see a few changes in my time, Hopefully!